India is a land of high morals and cultures where everybody is greeted by joining hands and bowing head. We have Ganga River, we have cows, and we have temples and many more things that we respect more than people. But are these values enough to represent our country in front of others? Most of the people in our country spend lots of time in temples keeping decency, respect, love and morality optional. Is this fine on our part?
I think I can make you more to recollect about this by listing some of the examples of social etiquette that we generally avoid in our daily lives.
1.Hey! It’s not me, it’s my pitch
Most of the people, either on phone or talking to someone, talk too loudly in public, with no consideration for others’ eardrums! Always remember that a laugh for you is a guffaw for people around you and try to keep yourself on their places while doing so.
2.Hum jahan khade ho jaate hain, Line wahi se shuru hoti hai..
Unless there is someone monitoring the line, we do not hesitate to bend minor rules like going just an inch ahead of the indicated line of Traffic signal. Even some people take pride in not standing in the queue, all thanks to Bollywood for the beautiful quote.
3. The power of “sorry”
A sorry with a smile is so powerful that it can avoid any kind of quarrel and anger. Once go through your life and think of the situations where you could avoid dispute by apologizing but you didn’t just because you think it wasn’t your fault. I am sure you will find many!
4. My hands are clean, see!
For Indians, taste is something that can even make you forget about your health. What we think is that why should we use fork and spoon when we have five fingers. A person who actually obeys table manners, we generally call him ‘angrej’. Just think of the person, anyhow looking at you, when you are eating, what impression he would be going to make of you.
5. Street doesn’t belong to us. Does it?
For us, cleanliness is associated with our home that ends at the main door and outside it is a garbage land where we can throw anything from a chocolate wrapper to house waste, since it is not our responsibility to clean that area. So, whose responsibility it is?
6. Staring people for long time
Indian people, especially men have a very bad habit of staring people for long, making them feel embarrassed for no reason. At tourist places, one can find lots of people staring foreigners as if they are not humans and the bitter part is, some women also do the same.
Public urination is one of the top instances where Indians blatantly show their disrespect to the society. Apart from the hygiene factor, this is something to be tackled in private and such a habit takes seed in childhood where it is deemed okay to take a wiz on roadside bushes if one really has to go.
8. A perfect view and click!
This is so very common thing that Indians never do. They never think of asking while taking pictures. What they need is, a camera and something beautiful which they think should be captured.
9. Just a second, lemme reply first
Yes, we have proved ourselves open minded, modern, socially active and technology oriented people. But is this technology important than the person talking to you or food waiting to be your meal? We have undergone a change, a good one but it is good up to some extent only.
10. Respect for others’ time
One of the worse instance of lack of social etiquette is the lack of respect for others time. We Indians are so generous that love can make us do anything, but if you are trying to overtake us even for some urgent reason, we would allow you since we are also in hurry. Not every game is made to win.
11. Signature of festivals
India, a holy land of festivals that gave us Diwali, Holi, Navratri and many more occasions to get out of our monotonous life and enjoy to the fullest. And what are we greeting it with? Loud music on the streets, crackers bursting at night, festive residues in rivers, colors spewed on roads, what else?
Wherever you visit in India, you just can’t escape from the people obsessed with spitting. Seems like our country men are involved in a continuous spitting contest “spit-a-thon” and hey they are all winning.
13. No sense of pride for historical landmarks
When we are asked about our country, we tell them about the ancient monuments and museums we have, with proud. But nobody tells that we also have the rampant graffiti scrawled across walls of such beautiful assets our country owns letting world know that we visited there.
14. Oh! Was it personal?
Indians are so curious and always ready to poke their nose into somebody’s matter. Either personal or professional, they are not going to make you face it alone. For them, their opinion is the most prior thing.
15. Laughter: not just a medicine
Yes for them, situation, person, place doesn’t really matter a lot. If they want to laugh they will laugh, even pointing at you. It is their way to show curiosity, your embarrassment and what you are going to feel about this, is not a big issue!
Being an Indian, I respect every tradition and culture which our country stands for, but not at the cost of social values and this is what I want you people to understand. Here, by people I am referring to that proportion of Indians who can piss publically but are very violent towards those who publicly kiss.
Now when we have almost adopted the western culture, why shouldn’t we take something good from them? If you find something related to this or any social change we should carry out, please do share.