We all know that failure is inevitable in the journey of life. We also do realize that our failure helps us to grow but time and again we give it power over our emotions. We fear it, hate it and sometimes go to any extent to avoid facing it. And there are times when we hold onto it for too long, with each passing moment annihilating a part of our determination. Why failures haunt us so much, holding us back in shame and pain? Shouldn’t we do something to shrug it off so that we can focus on important things? Here are 10 simple steps to overcome failure in life.
1. Accept Your Fault
It’s okay if you were wrong about something. Accept your fault because being true to yourself is an accomplishment in itself. Blaming others will only haze out the clear picture you need to put the next step right.
2. Analyse Your Failure
Failures are inevitable in every path that is worth walking. So instead of lamenting over it, analyse why things went wrong. Failure is not a dead-end but an enlightenment that helps you to make better decisions in future.
3. Stop Regretting
Dwelling on your failure isn’t going to change the outcome. It will only trap you in melancholy, hampering your ability to move on. The past cannot be changed but the future can be shaped in a better way. Focus on your future.
4. Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself
Just because you haven’t yet found the way to success, doesn’t mean you are a failure. Don’t tie your failure to your identity. You failed because you tried something worth achieving. You just tripped over a stumbling block and all you need to get up and start afresh is your will. Believe in yourself.
5. Stop Seeking Approval of Others
The fear of being judged often haunts us, especially during setbacks. Don’t let your actions be the slave of others’ opinions. It’s your life and you need to set its course. Applauds or criticisms won’t make your way easier or worse. Your perspective and decisions will.
6. Try a New Perspective
You failed because you tapped the wrong door but there are many more that could lead you to your goal. Try out a new one- a new door, a new perspective or a new strategy. Your failure is not your incapability. It’s an experience that helps you to refine your approach.
7. Never Give Up
Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. No matter how many times you fail, never give up on the dreams you truly want to achieve. The path you are walking might be tough, but then, nothing worth having comes easy.
8. Take Your Time
Failures are unnerving and nobody recovers overnight. Take your time but never let your emotions shadow your goal. Taking some time to pull yourself together is perfectly okay but make sure when you start again you find your determination doubled.
9. Avoid Self Comparison
You are unique and so is your course. Comparing your life with others could be the biggest distraction in your way. Follow your heart and trust your instincts as they only can lead you to what defines your version of success.
10. Learn from Failures
No lessons are learnt without making mistakes. From your failures, pick out the things that refine your vision and prepare yourself for a new journey. Even if not an easier way, you will definitely find a wiser and smarter ‘you.’
Not that hard, isn’t it? Failure doesn’t define you; rather it helps you to evolve. Let it go, forgive yourself and move on. So what if you stumbled upon some obstacles? Get up and start walking again with your head high and chin up.